Writer · Researcher · Consultant · Activist

Elana Sztokman

Building a more compassionate society.

Hi. I'm Elana Sztokman (she/her). For 30 years, I have been working to make our cultures and societies better for the people in them. I am increasingly concerned about practices that are hurtful, oppressive, abusive, and even violent in both physical and non-physical ways. I believe that we can and should be engaging with one another with care, compassion, and an appreciation of our shared humanity. In order to do that, I use many tools at my disposal. I research, study, listen, write, work, speak, engage, collaborate, and build bridges. Here on my site, you can explore my work and platforms. Take a look around, and feel free to reach out to me if you would like to chat, learn more, or work together.

Elana Sztokman
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New book · October 2026

Toxic Tactics

79 patterns of abusive language that have become normalized in our culture, and how to recognize, name, and heal from them.

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What Elana does

Where Elana's work lives

Books, essays, a podcast, and teaching, all about language, power, and gender.

Books

Eight books on gender, culture, power, and language.

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Writing

The Roar, Elana's Substack, plus essays in Haaretz, The Forward, Lilith, and more.

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Women Ending War

Elana's podcast and peace-media work, with the women choosing the language of peace.

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Speak & Consult

Talks, workshops, and consulting on toxic language, gender, power, and building cultures of care.

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A selection of outlets that have published Elana's work.