Building a more compassionate society.
Hi. I'm Elana Sztokman (she/her). For 30 years, I have been working to make our cultures and societies better for the people in them. I am increasingly concerned about practices that are hurtful, oppressive, abusive, and even violent in both physical and non-physical ways. I believe that we can and should be engaging with one another with care, compassion, and an appreciation of our shared humanity. In order to do that, I use many tools at my disposal. I research, study, listen, write, work, speak, engage, collaborate, and build bridges. Here on my site, you can explore my work and platforms. Take a look around, and feel free to reach out to me if you would like to chat, learn more, or work together.
Two decades of showing up, in living rooms and on the streets, with the people building change.
79 patterns of abusive language that have become normalized in our culture, and how to recognize, name, and heal from them.
Visit toxictactics.com →Books, essays, a podcast, and teaching, all about language, power, and gender.
The Roar, Elana's Substack, plus essays in Haaretz, The Forward, Lilith, and more.
Read Elana's writing →Elana's podcast and peace-media work, with the women choosing the language of peace.
Listen →Talks, workshops, and consulting on toxic language, gender, power, and building cultures of care.
Invite Elana →Essays on language, power, gender, and the fight for a more humane world.